Category Archives: Transforming Negativity

Hub of the Wheel

“A man is hit in the chest by an arrow and collapses. Gravely wounded, he is on the brink of death, so a doctor is summoned to remove the arrowhead. But the man will not let him do this. First, … Continue reading

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Healing Anger

Anger is a basic denial of acknowledging some other feeling which we dont want to feel. Its a denial of wanting to feel pain, helplessness,powerlessness and a fear of loss of control and safety. We try to evade seeing and … Continue reading

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Why the fixation on Success

I was wondering about the constant fixation on SUCCESS and on the so called successful people in the past and current human potential movement. Many seem to be obsessively pre-occupied about ‘going Big’ on goals of getting the perfect partner … Continue reading

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Being Non-judgemental, just what does it mean?

The wise say : ‘It is good for ourselves and others to be non-judgmental. Being judgemental makes relationships difficult and sour. Being non-judgemental brews harmonious and wholesome relationships.’ Saying it is really easy isn’t it. When I look at a … Continue reading

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Happiness comes only if

You can seek happiness successfully only if you are already happy. Otherwise you are a fool, because you wont get it anyways? Hmmm….What? I may not be having a great job – it doesn’t give me great money or it … Continue reading

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did you hire a guard yet?

When a suspicious person prowls around your house, you are watchful. You keep an alert on his activities. And if that person threatens to move into your house, then you call the police instantly, see to it that he is … Continue reading

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I Choose to Believe

Notice your self-talk when you are emotionally ‘down’. When we are emotionally down or negative, our world appears uncontrollably negative: untrustworthy or cruel or disheartening or hateful. It turns out that generally our perceived realities especially when we are in … Continue reading

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Humility

Nowadays I am called to give attention to this ’emotional competence’: humility. It has now and then posed a challenge to me and made me reflect on it. Here are my musings on it. Every page of our lives, whether … Continue reading

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He has hurt me, I will show him now

When people ‘wrong’ us and are ‘unfair’: Our first impulse is to let them know that they are wrong, to give them a ‘piece of our mind’.  We now have to show them that they are ‘wrong’  and they simply … Continue reading

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Art of ‘Playing’ Life

How to live in present, while still visualizing a grander future for yourself? How to create a future that you love, without worrying about it? How to do our work like we play as a child? For that we need … Continue reading

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Change your language, change your situation

Here’s a simple test of our emotional intelligence. Can you sense and feel…what is common with these thoughts? They all seem to be what we all think, but there is a hidden truth in these statements and a hidden key. … Continue reading

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Is this a blessing or a curse for me?

how can we judge what’s good and bad? Check out this old Zen story: A farmer had a horse but one day, the horse ran away and so the farmer and his son had to plow their fields themselves. Their neighbours said, … Continue reading

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Negatives of Positive Thinking

In an interesting discussion yesterday with a friend of mine where we discussed the ‘negatives’ of positive thinking. Yes, sounds paradoxical. But it turned out that its quite right that there is indeed a little ‘negative’ to positive thinking. I … Continue reading

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I don’t know vs I know

When I say ‘I don’t know’…. there is two ways of telling that. One is with a background mindset of ‘no hope’ or ‘i cant’ or some fear or insecurity which generally has the effect of closing the mind for … Continue reading

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