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Sand Castles and Sand Dunes

A rush of waves come over the sand. Children clap their hands with glee and run with playful mirth allowing the waves to chase them. Waves gushes in into the pure warmth of these children’s love, even destroying their lovely … Continue reading

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Sleight of judgmentalism, seeing through it!

When light comes in touch with darkness, either of three things can happen: 1. Light mingles with the dark and becomes dark. Dark becomes darker. 2. Dark transforms to brightness 3. The two remain as it is without mingling. When … Continue reading

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Feeling misunderstood, disapproved ?

Being at peace with disapproval and misunderstanding, opposition and contradiction, is to be able to honour a different and perhaps starkly opposed perspective as perfectly natural, equally valid and meant to come in that person for nature’s perfect cause. Giving … Continue reading

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A mind full of feelings vs mind-full-ness of feelings

Being a Mind Full of Feelings vs Being Mindful of Feelings. We always think feelings happen in us because of the situation or people around us. But just wondered, could the situation beĀ happeningĀ because there are feelings in us which are … Continue reading

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Hub of the Wheel

“A man is hit in the chest by an arrow and collapses. Gravely wounded, he is on the brink of death, so a doctor is summoned to remove the arrowhead. But the man will not let him do this. First, … Continue reading

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Healing Anger

Anger is a basic denial of acknowledging some other feeling which we dont want to feel. Its a denial of wanting to feel pain, helplessness,powerlessness and a fear of loss of control and safety. We try to evade seeing and … Continue reading

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Human Being or Human Doing

Are you doing busy-ness everyday and every moment? And when we are not doing our busy-ness then how do we feel? They are the crucial moments of our day telling us something deeper about us. Pay attention to it. When … Continue reading

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Why the fixation on Success

I was wondering about the constant fixation on SUCCESS and on the so called successful people in the past and current human potential movement. Many seem to be obsessively pre-occupied about ‘going Big’ on goals of getting the perfect partner … Continue reading

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Dont Quit! a nice story I found

I found this story in one of the forwards from my friend. Its an uplifting story for those who are going through a rough phase of life when sometimes every door seemingly appears closed….or nothing seems to sprout in life … Continue reading

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Being Non-judgemental, just what does it mean?

The wise say : ‘It is good for ourselves and others to be non-judgmental. Being judgemental makes relationships difficult and sour. Being non-judgemental brews harmonious and wholesome relationships.’ Saying it is really easy isn’t it. When I look at a … Continue reading

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Vipassana and Serenity

I just finished a 10 day Vipassana meditation retreat in Bodhgaya, the land of enlightenment of the Buddha. It was a very wonderful experience and there were many learnings. As such I have done several such retreats till now, but … Continue reading

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Happiness comes only if

You can seek happiness successfully only if you are already happy. Otherwise you are a fool, because you wont get it anyways? Hmmm….What? I may not be having a great job – it doesn’t give me great money or it … Continue reading

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Law of Attraction for Dummies, My Rants ‘n Raves.

Do you have no idea of this ‘law’? No? It might be a good to get updated on this ‘latest phenomena’ which is running its rounds like wild fire in many circles on the internet, coaching, motivational, and soft-training and … Continue reading

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did you hire a guard yet?

When a suspicious person prowls around your house, you are watchful. You keep an alert on his activities. And if that person threatens to move into your house, then you call the police instantly, see to it that he is … Continue reading

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Leading your Life or Living your Life?

Is there a difference between leading life and living life? If things happen for you because of uncontrollable life conditions, then you live life. If life conditions happen because of  your conscious intentions and volitions, then you lead life. If … Continue reading

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I Choose to Believe

Notice your self-talk when you are emotionally ‘down’. When we are emotionally down or negative, our world appears uncontrollably negative: untrustworthy or cruel or disheartening or hateful. It turns out that generally our perceived realities especially when we are in … Continue reading

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Part 3 – Understanding Emotional Frameworks in self and others

Say, your drive in your work is ‘security’, while your ‘achievement’ is what drives your boss.  When you are aware of this, it will be possible for you to communicate to your boss in such a way that it fulfils … Continue reading

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Part 2 – Understanding Emotional Framework in self and others

Let us briefly understand each of these drives: Significance/importance : It is this drive that makes us want to feel important, want to feel approved and acknowledged by others. It reflects as wanting titles, recognition, fame, wealth, status for the … Continue reading

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Part 1: Understanding emotional framework of self and others

Psychology has found that humans act and decide, essentially due to what drives them deep down in the emotional realm.  No matter how much we reason objectively, how we take stock of things using skills and aptitudes, psychology has discovered … Continue reading

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Humility

Nowadays I am called to give attention to this ’emotional competence’: humility. It has now and then posed a challenge to me and made me reflect on it. Here are my musings on it. Every page of our lives, whether … Continue reading

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