You can seek happiness successfully only if you are already happy. Otherwise you are a fool, because you wont get it anyways? Hmmm….What?
I may not be having a great job – it doesn’t give me great money or it doesn’t give me a great feeling of excitement or validation or significance or identity. Or I may not be having a great love/family and feel empty there. Or I may be having a debilitating illness or experiencing a befallen misfortune or an infliction of theft/abuse/cruelty/disrepute/poverty…the list is endless.
Naturally, I want what I lack, because that’s what I feel will make me happy. If only this or that is not there in my life, I can be very happy Or some would feel : Its all because of this or that , I feel unfortunate, unloved or unworthy or doomed.
Come rain we want shine. Come shine, we want rain.. .can you relate to this? Its only human.
Or otherwise, come rain, we want a better rain and even better rain. Come shine, we want a better shine and an even better shine. Come fire, we fear it, come wind we still fear we will loose it and the dreaded fire will rage.
I want the present to change, ever cries our soul. The present does change, but no I want it to change just the way I want it, I want full control!
And what do the wise prescribe for this chronic human illness that pervades almost all of the so called ‘normal and healthy’ people around the world?
“When we seek money, or a good relationship, or a great job, what we are really seeking is happiness. The mistake we make is not going for happiness first. If we did, everything else would follow.” – Deepak Chopra
Isn’t that quite a paradoxical statement?
Now if I am already happy, it means I don’t feel any lack then, why do I need a good health, or wealth, or status or achievement then? Zero Hour Question? And the wise say, that is why life is a Game and you just need to learn the Art of Playing Life..
So come what may be your situation, if you want to be truly happy, you better be happy with your current situation first. That’s the Secret?
And still more paradoxically, when we actually get the things that make us happy, we tend to more easily fall into states of greed, jealousy, envy, conceit, and Fear etc. And this I believe, lead us to our fall from whatever we sought after and attained. Getting those things of happiness leads most of us more easily to our fall.
“From pleasure arises sorrow; from pleasure arises fear.
To him who is free from pleasure there is no sorrow.
Whence, then, comes fear?” – Buddha.
Yet another Secret…sigh.
The purpose of every moment of our life, come what may be our situation, is to be at peace with it, is to be happy then? Happiness then, is simple serenity, the joy of equanimity and tranquility, not the joy and pleasure of high thrills and burning passions. Happiness then is simply to fully absorb the present moment, moment by moment.
Some wisdom quotes below:
“I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy… From my own limited experience I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater our own sense of well-being becomes. Cultivating a close, warmhearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. This helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the ultimate source of success in life.” — Dalai Lama
“When you demand nothing of the world, nor of God, when you want nothing, seek nothing, expect nothing, then the supreme state will come to you uninvited and unexpected.”
By: Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
“This silence, this moment, Every moment, If it’s genuinely inside you, Brings what you need.” ~Rumii♥
“To attain happiness in harmony with the Tao, one should seek a life of complete simplicity and naturalness and non- interference with the course of natural events.” — Lao-tzu
“When we stop trying to force things to happen, we can hold on to our power and energy by going with the natural flow of things, for time flows freely with the life force. And this awareness, possible only in each moment, reminds us there is no destination in time, only appreciation of the journey.” – Higher Awareness Quote by John and Patrice Robson
Enjoy and take care,